YOU’VE BOOKED AN BOUDOIR BY J ANDERSON EXPERIENCE… NOW WHAT?
The Ultimate Prep Guide for Women
Pro tips for an amazing intimate photography experience!
Hello Gorgeous!
Congratulations—you’ve just booked your intimate photography experience! 🎉 I bet you’re feeling excited… and maybe a little nervous. That’s completely normal. We’re just as thrilled as you are, and we’re here to make sure you feel supported every step of the way.
This guide is packed with tips and ideas to help you prepare, but remember—these are just suggestions. You can follow them all or pick the ones that feel right for you. Honestly, your biggest job is simply showing up. From there, it’s our job to make you look and feel amazing in your images.
My incredible transformation team and I will handle the rest—professional hair, flawless makeup, expert posing, and gentle coaching to bring out your most confident, authentic self. So take a deep breath, trust the process, and let us do what we do best.
Don’t worry, love… we’ve got you. 💖
THE TIMELINE
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BOOK
Book all your beauty, hair, and self-care appointments.
SHOP
If you like to shop, start early to find the perfect pieces to wear. When ordering online, consider size variances and shipping times.
Keep in mind that you’ll have full access to our 600+ piece client wardrobe, accessory, and shoe closet. So, if shopping is not your thing, don’t stress.
HUNT
Don’t overlook your closet (or your significant other’s) for gems to accent your outfits. Remember, an oversized dress shirt or tie can be super sexy.
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SKIN
Moisturize, moisturize, and moisturize some more.
NAILS
Book or give yourself a mani / pedi or simply file and clean up your nails. Remember no polish is better than chipped polish. Soft and neutral colors work best.
BODY HAIR
If you choose to come in smooth, wax 2-3 days before your shoot. Include any hair you don’t want to be seen.
HYDRATE
Drink lots of water! Your skin will thank you. Hydrating will also help alleviate any stiffness after all the stretching you’re about to do.
LIPS
Consider some beeswax or a lip mask.
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HAIR
Wash and dry thoroughly, with light products if needed. Please don’t flat iron or curl unless you are coming in already styled.
BODY HAIR
If you choose to come smooth, shave the night before or the morning of your session.
PACK
There is no baggage limit here. Overpacking is Okay. More is better than not enough. Make sure to pack a pair of underwear for trying on items from the client closet and a change of clothes for after your session. Also, remember to pack your credit card in case you decide to upgrade during your ordering session.
RELAX
Consider a bubble bath to help with any last-minute jitters.
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EAT
Please eat before you arrive. We don’t want your blood sugar tanking. Avoid any foods that makes you feel bloated and drink lots of water.
FACE
Exfoliate, cleanse, and moisturize your skin.
WEAR
Wear loose-fitting clothing like a maxi dress or sweats. No bra, socks, or underwear until after your session. No hair ties or watches on your wrists. We don’t want marks on your skin.
CHOOSING COLORS
When planning wardrobe for your session, we recommend colors that both compliment your skin tones and the aesthetic of our studio. The best choices are rich, deep jewel tones; warm earthy tones; soft pastels; and classic monochrome (black to white). Choosing high contrast colors and neon’s (unless we’re shooting the neon set) can be distracting and pull the viewers eye away from the intended focal point...you! These colors can also clash with our carefully thought-out studio design and have a messy result.
Wear These
Not These
SELECTING OUTFITS
Don’t get wrapped up in tag sizes when purchasing lingerie. Sizing can vary drastically between vendors and we humans come in all different shapes and sizes. Choose outfits that make you feel good and fit well. When in doubt we like a little snugger fit versus too loose. Don’t let shopping be stressful. In fact, it’s often not even necessary. We offer hundreds of lingerie pieces for you to wear during your shoot. The only thing we require you to bring to your Experience is a thong for trying on pieces from our wardrobe.
We Suggest These
Body Suits
Matching Bra & Panty Set
Colored Bralettes
High Waisted Bottoms or Thongs
Fishnet Stockings
Cardigan or Oversized Pullover Sweaters
Heels, the higher and skinnier - the better
Statement Jewelry
Leave These at Home
Corsets
Babydolls
Merry Widows
Men’s Jerseys
G-strings
Props
Costumes
Wedges
Still not sure what do wear? Click the link below for 27 of our best outfit ideas.
What is my Body Shape?
RECTANGLE | BANANA
Most Common:
Similar hip, waist, & bust measurements, less curves, smaller bust.
HOURGLASS
Similarly proportioned top and bottom, despite a commonly larger bottom, clearly defined waist & substantial curves.
ROUND | APPLE
Wider torso, full bust & waist, flat bottom.
TRIANGLE | PEAR
Rounder on the bottom, smaller top, smaller bust.
INVERTED TRIANGLE
Wider top or shoulders, smaller bottom, larger bust.
Choosing Panties Based on Body Shape
RECTANGLE | BANANA
Try adding curves with bikini cuts.
High waist or classic briefs will likely be too much be too much, leaving you swimming in material.
HOURGLASS
Try hipsters or high waisted with more material and structure for larger bottoms.
ROUND | APPLE
Try high-cut, higher waist with thicker elastic.
TRIANGLE | PEAR
Try opting for a size larger than normal and pieces with more material like high waist or hipsters.
INVERTED TRIANGLE
PRO TIP
When talking undergarments, elastic is an essential element of top performing bottoms! Flimsy elastic wears out quickly and rolls down often. The lifespan of elastic can be shortened greatly if you’re putting them in the dryer.
CHOOSING A GREAT BRA
Support is a huge consideration for women. Some are comfortable aux natural, while others seek mid or full support. Whichever you choose, we are here to help you embrace it!
Don’t be afraid to float between sizes. Memorize your Sister Size, an alternate band and cup size that maintains the same cup volume.
Wear a T-shirt when shopping for bras. Don’t be afraid to jump around in the changing room. Often, women arrive home to realize too late that a little normal activity has them spilling out of their new cups.
Stray from the contour cup. (You know the popular molded T-shirt bra style.) Contrary to many mothers’ beliefs, less supported breasts have trouble filling these pre-fitted cups. Instead, try some unlined lace for something that will support and mold to you.
For smaller busts, consider brands that specialize in petite sizing.
BAND: This is where the support should come from and should always be parallel to the floor.
BRIDGE: The piece that connects the two cups and anchors the bra to the body. It should sit flush against your chest.
CUPS: Should fit smoothly; gaps underneath or spilling out are equally poor fits.
THIS OR THAT
BODYSUITS VS BABYDOLLS
Where did her body go? That's what we think when we see babydoll pieces. Most women will happily hide beneath mounds of material, but that is counterproductive to our mission here. If you desire a dress look, opt for a fancy robe or a skirt with a lace bralette that can be removed or pushed aside to show off your curves.
Bodysuits are incredibly flattering on all body types.
Higher cuts will make your legs look longer and booty look rounder, an effect that would be completely lost under a babydoll.
They are available in a large variety of styles with and without sleeves, more or less coverage, feminine and lacy or bold and strappy.
GARTER SETS
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MERRY WIDOWS
Merry Widows are essentially the long t-shirt of the lingerie world.
Generally, we avoid these because they double the material over our favorite curves. If you’re aiming for the sexy stocking list, opt for a 3-piece set with a garter belt.
Tips for Wardrobe Staples
Stop whatever you're doing and put these in your shopping cart now!
These babies are like putting on a superhero cape; they give you a super boost of confidence and look good on any booty. They can be worn solo or paired with high-waisted bottoms.
FISHNETS
The staple piece your lingerie drawer has been looking for. Flattering on every body type, can be worn as a set or paired with a cute color bralette or those fishnet stockings you already ordered.
HIGH-WAISTED BLACK BOTTOMS
Where to Shop
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If you’re on a budget—or just love having an abundance of options—these vendors carry pieces that are not only affordable, but also photograph beautifully. You don’t have to spend a fortune to look and feel incredible in front of the camera.
Some of our go-to favorites:
The Groove (Gilbert, AZ)
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When you think lingerie, these are probably some of the more common brands that come to mind. They’re easy to find, deliver consistent quality, and usually sit right in the middle ground of pricing—not budget basics, but not investment-level couture either.
Some of my favorites in this category include:
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Finding lingerie that fits beautifully and still feels irresistibly sexy shouldn’t be a struggle. These brands cater especially to curvier ladies, offering a broader bra size range, well-cut stockings, and stunning sets—without the “watered-down” styles you so often see in plus options.
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These brands are what dreams are made of when it comes to lingerie. If you’re looking for a true statement designer piece, this is where you’ll find it—exquisite fabrics, couture-level detailing, and that “I’ve never felt this incredible” moment the second you put it on.
But be prepared: these are investment pieces, with outfits ranging from $200 to $1,000+. They’re perfect if you want something unforgettable for your shoot, and equally stunning for special occasions afterward.
🔥 Pro tip: Even if you splurge on just one piece, pairing it with items from our client closet can give you multiple breathtaking looks during your session.
FINE ART NUDES
Whether it's tasteful portraits with strategic placements of limbs and shadows or implied with the security of a sheet, rest assured we will allow you to step outside your comfort zone without pushing. The incredible thing about nudes is that they can powerfully display a dynamic range of moods. Your images can portray soft, vulnerable, and beautiful nudes or bold and sensual nudes and anything in between.
Whether you've decided to include nude portraits or not, I am here to help guide you through the entire Experience and encourage you to celebrate your body!
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DO THIS...
Start Shopping Early
Remember the smaller local lingerie shops too
Try everything on!
Have a matching bra & panty
Go for texture! Lace, straps, and metal hardware add a great elements to lingerie
Cut the tags off of everything
Stretch it out before your session
Eat Breakfast
Book the whole day off
Share BTS and tag us on Social Media if comfortable
Tell all of your friends about your amazing Boudoir Experience!
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PLEASE DON'T...
Get wrapped up in tag sizes when purchasing intimates. Sizing can vary between vendors, and humans come in all different shapes, sizes, and measurements!
Bring outfits you're not in love with or showing wear/piling
Bring Props; you're not a product!
Spray Tan or use Self-tanner
Plan body-altering appointments close to your session, like Tattoos (temporary or permanent), Piercings, Laser Treatments, or Cupping -
Consider bruising and the risks of infection & swelling.
SPRAY TANNING
First and foremost, we have to get real about spray and self-tanners. Plain and simple, DON'T DO IT! It doesn't matter if it's a luxury provider, the number one selling self-tanning product, or your cousin Karen's natural airbrushed organic tan. I understand this can be difficult to hear, but the last thing I want is to jeopardize your session. We realize ladies often want a little extra glow for special occasions, but we promise you'll photograph beautifully without it!
Why We Boycott the Spray Tan
We get it—spray tans sound like the perfect pre-shoot glow. But when it comes to professional boudoir photography, spray tans can cause more harm than help. In fact, they’re one of the few things we absolutely refuse in the studio.
Here’s why:
We get it—spray tans sound like the perfect pre-shoot glow. But when it comes to professional boudoir photography, spray tans can cause more harm than help. In fact, they’re one of the few things we absolutely refuse in the studio.
Here’s why:
1. Saturated Color on Camera
Remember that Friends episode where Ross gets a spray tan… and ends up looking more like a carrot than a sun goddess? The same thing can happen in photos.
Tanning solutions have pigments that appear much more saturated under professional lighting and high-resolution cameras than they do in your bathroom mirror.
Instead of a natural bronze, your skin can take on an unflattering orange or overly “warm” hue that’s almost impossible to correct.
Even with advanced editing, removing that saturation without making your skin look flat or gray is extremely difficult—often costly, and in many cases, simply not possible.
2. Uneven Color Distribution
Spray tans don’t always apply evenly, and certain body areas can develop obvious differences in tone:
Rubbing zones: under your bra band, in your armpits, or along elastic lines.
Over-saturation spots: feet, ankles, and between your fingers.
While these variations might be subtle in person, in a high-definition image they become very visible—and distracting.
3. Color Transfer to Wardrobe & Linens
No matter how long you wait after application, spray tan pigment almost always transfers onto fabrics.
This means:
Staining delicate lingerie from our client closet.
Leaving marks on sheets, props, or studio furniture.
Unfortunately, these stains don’t always wash out—and that’s not a risk we’re willing to take with our studio wardrobe or specialty linens.
Our Studio Promise
We want you to look—and feel—your absolute best in your boudoir session. A natural skin tone, even if it’s lighter than you imagined, always photographs better than a spray tan.
If you want a sun-kissed look for your session, we recommend a gradual lotion-based self-tanner applied well in advance (2–3 weeks before your shoot), giving time for the color to even out and fade naturally.
Bottom line: Skip the spray tan. You’ll thank us when you see your photos.
🔥 Pro Tip: We can absolutely warm up your natural skin tone in post-production.
This means if you’re worried about looking pale, don’t be—we can subtly add warmth during editing for a healthy, sun-kissed glow that looks authentic. What we can’t do is “fix” the heavy orange saturation, streaks, or uneven patches that come with spray tans.
TANNING FAQ
You've read our strong feelings on spray tanning, but what about natural vitamin D and tanning beds?
If you're adamant about acquiring that little extra glow or you'll be spending time in the sun leading up to your session, then we have a few tips!
Use Sunscreen! This will help keep your skin even and protect you from UV rays and burning.
Tan up to a week prior to your session, and avoid tan lines!
Also, avoid listening to that friend who tells you, "Oh, they can just Photoshop that." Tan lines and burns are outside the standard retouching included with your images.
If using lotion in the tanning bed, take time to get even coverage, and be sure to clean your hands before climbing in.
Moisturize a lot! We can not stress the importance of doubling up your routine to compensate for the tanning.
Don't forget your lips. We often forget them until it's time to wear lipstick and they're chapped and flaky. Give them a brush when cleaning your teeth, and if you can never remember to carry lip balm. Check out one of these awesome Lip Sleeping Masks. This can easily be added to bedtime routine!
CHECKLISTS
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Verify you've filled out your pre-session questionnaire and uploaded your ID
If you wax, do so a few days before your shoot to avoid bumps or redness. Even barely-there facial hair will be noticeable in your photos.
If you plan to visit a hair salon for a cut or color, give yourself several days to make sure you are happy with it.
Be sure to get a salon manicure and pedicure for a flawless finish. Hands and nails are featured in almost every shot. Pick a neutral color that won't distract.
Stay out of the sun. While a base tan might be nice in photos, red, blotchy skin will not.
DO NOT SPRAY TAN or use self-tanners! We will refuse to shoot a client who has recently been spray-tanned.
Drink plenty of water and moisturize for luminous skin. Dry skin can detract from a great photo. Sugar scrubs are your friend.
Lower your salt intake and avoid alcohol if you have concerns about retaining water.
Try on your outfits and lingerie to make sure they fit correctly. Steam or iron your ensembles and hang them properly.
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Get a good night's sleep
Bathe, Shave, & Tweeze if required
Moisturize
Layout comfy, loose clothing for traveling to your session
Bring a bra and panties or an outfit for returning home
Pack Bag - More options are better than not enough
Remember, to use the Client Wardrobe, you MUST bring a nude or black thong and/or underwear to your session.
Optional: Pack Fish Net Pantyhose, Black High-Waisted Underwear, Body Jewelry & Accessories
Shoes - the most commonly forgotten item. While barefoot is hot, high heels are oh-so sexy. The higher and skinnier, the better. (Don't worry, walking in heels is not required) Leave those wedges at home
Enjoy a relaxed, quiet evening.
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Use clear deodorant
Wear loose-fitting clothing to your Experience to avoid red marks on your skin (no jeans, tight socks, bras, etc.).
Eat Breakfast! Posing is a workout!
Arrive with a clean, moisturized face & clean hair
Stretch a little
Moisturize
Bring a debit or credit card. Even if you've pre-paid, most clients decide to upgrade during their ordering session.
Most Important: Take a deep breath. It's completely normal to be a bit nervous before your shoot. Please don't worry. You will be in very good hands. We will show you exactly how to pose and work with you to get the perfect shot. This is going to be amazing!
Frequently Asked Questions
How Many Outfits Should I Bring?
We recommend having at least three outfits you love and feel amazing in. The more outfits you bring, the better. It’s important to be prepared and confident with several choices ahead of time. If you are not a fan of shopping, don’t worry. You’ll also have access to our 600+ piece Boudoir By J Anderson Client Closet, complete with heels and accessories.
Is Hair & Makeup Included?
Complimentary hair styling, makeup, and lashes are included for one in all of our Boudoir and Erotic Experiences!
Our transformation team creates camera-ready looks that range from girl-next-door natural to va-va-voom glam, and everything in between. If you have a specific look you like or inspirational photos to share, please bring them with you, or just let yourself relax, and our team will do it all. We hand-pick makeup artists who can work with all skin types, ages and hair textures. Our transformation team has been hand-picked not only for their quality skills but also for their personality. You will be working with some of the best in the local industry! Be prepared to be pampered, boost your self-esteem, and leave the studio feeling transformed inside and out!
We ask that you arrive at the Studio with a clean, moisturized face and clean, dry hair so that we can get right to work. Let the transformation begin!
Can I Bring A Guest?
In theory, this sounds like it would be fun, but sometimes, when there is an audience, our clients hold back. We really want you to let loose, have fun, and enjoy this time and not worry about entertaining your guests. We promise our team is the best around, and you will feel comfortable in our space! We believe this time is for you to be pampered and focus on YOU without distractions! If you need special assistance or a support person, please let us know beforehand so we can make the necessary accommodations. No one under 18 is ever allowed in the studio.
How Long is the Session?
Plan on spending the day with us! We start at 9 a.m. and usually finish around 4 p.m. Remember to bring some extra spending cash for your one-hour lunch break.
Do you Photoshop my Images?
Professional editing and Photoshop are included in our image pricing, but you will be amazed at how great you look with our “less is more” approach. The extensiveness of editing is up the the client. Per your approval, all final purchased images will receive the custom BBJA edits that remove things like pimples, bruises, scratches, undereye, skin texture or redness, etc. We can do some nip-tuck, but with our expert posing and lighting skills, make our images POP!
You are beautiful just the way you are, no matter your age or size, and we want to emphasize your natural beauty. Posing and communication are key. We all have self-perceived flaws, so let's work together to help you look and feel your best!
Do you Share My Images?
That is totally up to you! Maybe you are not ready to share your images with the world. Perhaps you are only interested in sharing your images with a loved one. Maybe you work in a profession that requires an extra level of discretion. Whatever the situation, it is up to you whether you want to share your images.
Intimate photography is incredibly personal. Most of our clients have a story behind why they became interested in having a Boudoir or Erotic Experience, and part of that story may include sharing their images as a demonstration of their self-love and empowerment. As you explore our website or our social media feeds, you will see images from our clients. All of those clients have given us written permission to share their images.
We will discuss whether you want to share your images during your Image Reveal session and review our model image release. We will only share the photos you have approved.
What is Copyright?
Unless you are a content creator, photographer, or digital creator, you may have little reason to delve into what copyright actually means. The long and short of it is…Whoever presses the shutter to create an image owns the copyright of that image.
Boudoir By J Anderson / J Anderson Studios has the ownership of every image they take of their clients, regardless of whether these images are included in the final gallery or not. According to the US Copyright Law, the Copyright holder (our studio) is entitled to use these images. However, a professional photographer understands that sharing images without permission is both irresponsible and can be legally challenged. It can also be considered an invasion of privacy for the client.
The images you receive as part of your photography session are essentially a shared copyright. We allow you to own them and sometimes use them per the terms of the signed contract. We do not use your images unless you have given us permission in the form of a separately signed image release form.
As a client, it is important to note that any use of the image outside of our contracted agreement is prohibited. This includes selling the image to a third party, submitting it to a contest, allowing it to be used as a brand's poster child, or using it as a commercialized authoring photo on your book.
In some cases, you may want to have complete ownership of the Copyright for an image created by our Studio. This means that you will have unrestricted rights to use the image without giving us any credit for creating it. Once the Copyright trade is completed, we will no longer have any ownership or rights to that image. The cost of transferring the Copyright starts at $1500 per image.
Do I have to Get Naked?
Of course not!! Intimate photography is not about naked photos. The majority of our clients do end up going partially or entirely nude, even clients who did not necessarily plan to do so coming in, but that is up to you.
Before your Experience you will receive a questionnaire. We encourage clients to complete this questionnaire to give us some idea of their comfort level with different levels of undress and how much they want to be encouraged to step outside their comfort level.
Even lingerie is optional. There are so many different outfit ideas available. Many of our clients have specific outfits they bring to complement their desired theme. All clients also have access to our Client Closet to choose something that fits their personality, whether that is something lacy, something sheer, or something racy.
Still Not Sure What to Wear?
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
Clothes are meant to fit you - not the other way around.
If you aren't a lingerie person (I'm not!), that's okay. Bring pieces that make you FEEL good.
Clothes are just the cherry on top of a beautiful sundae - nude is my favorite outfit!
For More Ideas: "27 of the Best Boudoir Outfits Guide."
The countdown is on, and I'm so excited to spoil you! You are now equipped with all our tips and tricks to make your experience amazing, but for now, you've got work to do!
See You Soon!
More Questions?
Have specific questions? Please email them to us at studio@boudoirbyjanderson.com
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